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Is American BDSM welcoming to lesbian and queer women?
Yes. Membership and search cover all genders and orientations, and profiles let you state exactly who you're looking for. Plenty of members are still figuring out their role, and a profile that says so plainly matches with people happy to explore alongside you.
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Is American BDSM welcoming to lesbian and queer women?
Yes. Membership and search cover all genders and orientations, and profiles let you state exactly who you're looking for. The community here is defined by shared interests, not any one identity.
Can I search specifically for women?
Yes, search and match suggestions take your stated gender preferences into account, so you see people who fit what you're actually looking for.
Do I need to already know my role (Dom, sub, switch)?
No. Plenty of members are still figuring it out. Say that on your profile and you'll match with people happy to explore alongside you.
Is American BDSM free to join?
Yes. Classic membership is free and includes a full profile, browsing, daily match suggestions and a limited number of messages per day. Compare tiers →
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