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  • Fetish Mistress Mia, 31

    California City

    Hi there! We're a committed, experienced couple looking to connect with like-minded, open-minded submissive individuals. We value trust, communication, and mutual respect above all else. Our dynamic is warm, structured, and built on clear boundaries and consent. We're interested in meeting someone who is curious, genuine, and eager to explore a guided dynamic with a stable couple. Experience isn't required - just honesty, openness, and a willingness to communicate. If you're seeking a safe, respectful environment where you can express your submissive side, feel free to reach out. We'd love to chat, get to know you, and see if there's a good fit.

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  • Goddess Sophia, 28

    Los Angeles

    I'm good looking and genuine Mistress who is in for all kinky relationship and ready to make it happen. Also I would love to know my subs willingness to serve while I train him on his fantasies. Seeking a sub with whom I have connection. Any size, age, race for a mutually beneficial relationship and whatever play might interest you. Am a man with a lot of fetishes and am interested in getting to meet serious submissives.

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  • Huntinglover, 49

    California City

    A caring, intelligent woman, ready for a serious relationship. I agree with Anton Pavlovich Chekhov's opinion: "A woman can be called well-mannered if she does not play to the public, is compassionate to everyone, modest and she knows how to listen. Such people are neat, polite and hardworking.".

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  • ConfidentOptimist90, 30

    California City

    When my pussy is being eat and like to suck sick 💦💦

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  • DeterminedHearttf8ac, 70

    California City

    I want Someone calm both inside and loutside, honest, loving, caring, trustworthy, hardworking, God fearing, kind, romantic, passionate, loving, generous and respect. Some one who I have trust, honesty and faith in her

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  • SmartLover288a0a, 33

    San Francisco

    I am looking for that special older one who will rekindle the flame of passion and desire that seems to have been quench in my past relationship.

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  • EmpressofHell, 56

    Fresno

    Looking for a partner who’s as daring as I am? With a taste for leather and a penchant for mischief, I'm a straight woman ready to indulge in some thrilling escapades. Whether you’re into toys or a bit of light spanking, let's dive deep into our desires and enjoy every moment. So, are you ready to take the plunge with a sensual soul who knows how to have a good time?

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  • Oscar, 38

    Ukiah

    Straightforward and confident, I thrive on the thrill of connection and exploration. As a Gemini, I embrace change and love to keep things exciting, especially when it comes to playful dynamics. If you're into bondage and don't mind a little spanking, let's dive into a friends-with-benefit s setup that ignites our passions. Let's see just how adventurous we can be together—what do you say?

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  • Mistress Luciana, 36

    Los Angeles

    I love teasing them until they're desperate, making them earn every reward. It's such a thrill watching them melt under my control, knowing they're completely mine.

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  • FearlessPuppyB9A9BF, 40

    California City

    Nature lover with a wild side. Cool, reserved and devoted- looking for a man who’s both sweet and naughty. I’ll do anything to make my man feel like a king

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  • Missfrancse, 44

    Santa Clarita

    Come and enter the world of your desire. Where you can let go and live your fantasy at the hands of a beautiful Mistress.

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  • Beautifulspirit, 34

    California City

    Hey there! I'm a 33-year-old guy standing at a fun 5 feet, ready to explore the wild side of life. With a penchant for clubs, parties, and everything BDSM, I’m looking for someone who enjoys a good laugh and thrilling escapades. I’ve got a few tattoos that tell stories, and I'm all about creating memorable moments—especially if they're a bit naughty!

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Are there local munches in California?

Munches, casual, fully clothed social meetups in public venues, run in most major US states, including California. They're the easiest way to meet local practitioners in a low-pressure setting before ever discussing a private dynamic.

Where can I meet a Dominant or submissive in California?

Most members start with a verified profile on a dedicated platform like American BDSM, then move to public munches or community events once they've built some rapport online. Meeting in a public, neutral setting first is the safer route regardless of how you connect.

Is BDSM legal in California?

Consensual activity between adults is generally treated differently from non-consensual acts under US law, but the details vary by state and specific activity. This isn't legal advice. If you have specific concerns, speak with a qualified attorney in your state.

Is American BDSM free to join in California?

Yes. Classic membership is free and includes a full profile, browsing, daily match suggestions and a limited number of messages per day. VIP and VIP+ tiers unlock unrestricted messaging and additional visibility. Compare tiers →

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